You have it all in your life. You watch a lot of porn, and you take notes of the things that make you extra excited and what your partner might like when you are in bed. While you explore the world of porn, you also keep in mind what you can learn from it. It is a novelty to bring your partner with you, though many people say there is a considerable risk about your partner’s reaction to you watching porn. But seriously, who has not ever watched porn?
So, watching porn alone is okay, but watching it with your partner makes all the difference. Generally, talking about porn is awkward. It is like, you know, everyone does it. Still, you cannot talk about it with them because it is like saying that you are so enthusiastic about things that people leave under their bed, that you love watching people naked together, or that you love watching them have sex together while you do not.
- Do not be afraid to speak about it
All things get settled better when there is open communication in a relationship. The best time to open this topic is while you are being intimate with your partner. But do not make it like you want to compromise wholesome practices to make way for watching porn videos.
Make sure that while you want to propose an idea, you want to make it a point that you are still asking your partner out like god old days. Make sure it’s a shared activity.
You should instead ask in a flirty manner. Say something along the lines of “not ever trying X thing, so how about we do it?” Your partner will feel like you are thinking while she is there, and not like you have always thought of it and you were just waiting for the right time, and that time was not the best one out there. Or you can ask in an unconscious mode, like saying it came from a dream, sparking an interest to your partner to talk about it.
- Talk about content, and do not compromise
The internet can be a naughty place. You do not want to assume that your partner loves a type of porn filled with violence or misogynistic values. You also do not want to search for taboo-themed content, because they give the hardest content, which is too strong for a couple to watch.
What this is saying is that compared to you watching alone before, you are with someone under the same topic, but with different interests.
Make it a point that your partner is the one who gauges in the conversation first to know what she likes and have an idea with what she does not like as well. It might be harder to find what content you can agree with your partner in watching. But at the same time, there is the benefit of knowing more content and hopefully getting a new theme you personally like.